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How healthy are your boundaries?

Boundaries are the lines that protect your time, energy, money and feelings. Self-help writers often describe them as porous (too loose), rigid (too tight) or healthy (just right). It is a popular way of thinking, not a clinical test, and most of us are a mix. Ten everyday questions show where you may lean.

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What are healthy boundaries?

Healthy boundaries are limits that let you care about others while still protecting your own time, money, health and feelings. You can say yes or no without fear or guilt taking over.

What is the difference between porous and rigid boundaries?

Porous boundaries are too loose: you overshare, overhelp and struggle to say no. Rigid boundaries are too tight: you keep people at a distance and avoid asking for help. These are popular self-help labels, not diagnoses.

What if someone keeps crossing my boundaries or makes me afraid?

If someone hurts, threatens or controls you, that is abuse, not a boundary problem. In the US, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (thehotline.org). If an older adult is being harmed, neglected or exploited, the Eldercare Locator (1-800-677-1116) can connect you with local Adult Protective Services. In danger now, call 911 (US) or 119 (Korea).