Retirement and mental health

Retirement is one of the biggest changes in adult life. For many people it brings rest, freedom and time for family. For others, it also brings a quiet loss: of a daily schedule, of coworkers, of a role that told them who they were.

Both reactions are common, and many people feel some of each. This page explains how retirement can affect your mood and your relationships, and what helps people settle into this new stage.

Does retirement affect mental health?

Researchers have followed large groups of people before and after they retired. A 2021 review pulled together 25 of these long-term studies. Overall, retirement was linked to a slight rise in depression symptoms. The effect was so small that most people would not notice it.¹

The bigger story was how people left work:¹

• People who were pushed out of work, for example by a layoff or a health problem, had a clearer rise in depression symptoms.
• People who chose to retire, or who retired at a set age required by their employer or country, did not show a clear change.

In other words, retirement itself is rarely the problem. Losing control over the timing, or retiring because of illness, makes it harder. If that describes you, it is worth paying extra attention to your mood in the first year or two.

Most older adults adjust to big life changes. For some, though, grief, isolation or loneliness lingers and can lead to depression or an anxiety disorder.² See depression in later life and anxiety in later life.

Who you are when you no longer work

Many people spent 30 or 40 years answering the question "What do you do?" with a job title. When the job ends, that answer goes away. Some people feel lost, less useful, or invisible, even if they were glad to stop working.

This is a normal part of the change. It helps to remember that your skills, values and experience did not retire. A few questions can help you find what still matters:

• What parts of my work did I enjoy most: solving problems, teaching, building, caring for people, being part of a team?
• What did I always say I would do "someday"?
• What do I want people to know me for in the next 10 or 20 years?

Our ACT lesson on finding your values walks through this step by step. The page on purpose, meaning and well-being explains why a sense of purpose matters for health.

Why routine matters

A job decides when you wake up, when you eat and when you see other people. Without it, days can blur together. Some people sleep later and later, skip meals, or spend long hours in front of the TV. Over time, this can drain energy and lower mood.

You do not need a strict schedule. But a loose daily shape helps:

1. Keep a steady wake-up time, even on days with no plans. This also helps sleep. See healthy sleep habits.
2. Plan one reason to leave the house each day. A walk, an errand, a class, a visit or a place of worship all count.
3. Move your body most days. Our 12-week walking plan starts gently.
4. Put one thing on the calendar each week that involves other people. A standing coffee with a friend works well because you do not have to plan it each time.
5. Mix "have to" tasks with "want to" activities. Fixing the gutter is fine, but leave room for things you enjoy for their own sake.

This is close to a method therapists use for depression called behavioral activation. It is built on a simple idea: doing meaningful things often lifts mood, rather than waiting to feel better first.

Losing your social circle

For many people, coworkers were the people they talked to most. After retirement, those daily chats stop, and friendships based only on work often fade.

Loneliness and social isolation are not just unpleasant. The U.S. Surgeon General reported in 2023 that they are linked to a higher chance of early death, heart disease and stroke. In older adults, long-term loneliness and isolation may raise the risk of dementia by about half.³ The CDC lists older adults, people who live alone, and people facing big losses such as job loss, divorce or the death of a loved one among those at higher risk.⁴

If your social life shrank after retirement, see loneliness in later life and ways to feel more connected.

Couples: when you are both home all day

Retirement changes a marriage or partnership too. A couple who saw each other for a few hours each evening may now be together all day. One partner may still be working. Or one partner may have run the home for years and now feels their space is being taken over.

Small frictions are common: who does which chores, how money is spent, how much time to spend together and apart. These usually ease once a couple finds a new rhythm. A few habits can help:

• Talk before you retire, and again after. Share what you each picture for a normal week. Many couples find they had very different ideas.
• Plan time apart as well as together. Separate friends, hobbies and outings are healthy, not a sign of trouble.
• Re-divide household tasks on purpose, rather than letting resentment build.
• Talk about money early. Worry about income is a common source of stress in retirement. Meeting with a financial counselor can help you plan.
• Check in on each other's mood. One partner may struggle while the other is thriving.

If arguments keep repeating, a couples counselor can help. Medicare covers some therapy when it treats a mental health condition. See what Medicare covers for mental health.

Some people retire just as a spouse becomes ill, or soon after they lose a husband or wife. These are heavy changes to face at once. See when your husband or wife has dementia and losing a husband or wife.

Volunteering and other ways to stay engaged

Volunteering is one of the most studied ways to stay active after work. A 2013 review of the research found that people who volunteer tend to report less depression and more life satisfaction. Across five long-term studies, volunteers had about a 22% lower risk of dying during the study period.⁵

There is an important limit. Healthier, more active people may simply be more likely to volunteer. The few small trials that randomly assigned people to volunteer did not show clear health benefits.⁵ So volunteering is a good bet, not a guaranteed treatment.

The Surgeon General's report also describes service to others as a strong source of connection with your community.³

To find local programs, call the Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116. It connects you to your local Area Agency on Aging and other community services.⁹

Watch your drinking

With more free time and fewer fixed hours, some people drink more after retirement. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism names retirement as one of the life changes that can lead people to start or increase drinking to cope with boredom, loneliness or stress.⁷

Alcohol may seem to help for a short time, but it can make low mood, worry and sleep worse. Older bodies are also more sensitive to alcohol. The same drink can cause a higher blood alcohol level than in a younger person. This raises the risk of falls and injuries. Alcohol also interacts with many common medicines.⁷

If your drinking has crept up, see alcohol in later life. Talk with your doctor or pharmacist about how alcohol mixes with your medicines.

Helping someone who just retired

If a parent, partner or friend is having a hard time after retiring, you can help without taking over:

• Invite them to regular plans, such as a weekly walk or meal, instead of one-time events.
• Ask for their help or advice. Being useful to others matters.
• Notice changes in drinking, sleep, or how they talk about themselves.
• If you are worried about depression, say so kindly and encourage a doctor visit. See helping someone with depression.

When to get help

Feeling unsettled for a few months after retiring is common. Get help if signs like these last more than a couple of weeks or keep getting worse:²

• Feeling sad, empty or hopeless most of the day
• Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
• Changes in sleep, appetite or energy
• Being more irritable, angry or worried than usual
• Headaches, stomach problems or pain with no clear cause
• Drinking more, or using pills to cope
• Thoughts of death or of not wanting to live

A good first step is your primary care doctor. They can check for physical causes and refer you to a counselor, psychologist or psychiatrist.² Medicare Part B covers one depression screening a year in a primary care office.⁸ You can also take our private mood check-in, or read about finding a therapist.

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